“together we will always pull through”

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Have been visiting mom since Friday lunch and when I arrived she was in bed and not in a great shape, but she didn’t want to go to hospital – we had a doctor on home call on Saturday evening and she lived up a bit … but yesterday she going to worst, but still refused hospital treatment.

This morning I found my mum total unresponsive and with very heavy breathing – so I asked the care service for help and they came straight away – ambulance came straight away.
1 hour later was she on intensive care. She has an urinary infection and water in her lungs.
She was always very dehydrated.

She is now transferred to a ward – she is responsive, but her body isn’t in a great shape.

My mom is 91 .. and her name is Millan. She loves Magnum Mini, “Ashes to Ashes” (UK TV-series), Oat porridge, oranges and Rollos.
And I love my mum.

By the way mom in Swedish is “mamma”

“That best academy, a mother’s knee.”
James Russell Lowell

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55 thoughts on ““together we will always pull through”

    • Jo, thank you so much … but her body had a very bad run the last 3 years and I have a feeling that she maybe has given up … but I hope that my feeling is wrong.

      • I don’t think ready ever happens, Viveka. My own mam died when my son was just 7 months old. She was newly retired at 65. Her happiest moments were holding her grandson in her arms. That’s 23 years ago. A life time. And still I think that I “see” her sometimes, on a street somewhere. 🙂

      • 65 no age … I think our mums will always be walking just behind us – looking after us … I’m not a believer as such, but I think their presents are in our subconscious. I thought I was quite prepared for this, but how wrong wasn’t I. She are a tough cookie and she been here before, but she are older now.

      • Awake early this morning, Viveka, reading my messages. I hope Mum had a good night and is started on the road to recovery. Thinking of you.

      • Jo, got a phone call from the hospital … on my way now – I have to take a train to get to the hospital … strangely I feel some inner peace. My only worry is if I will get there in time.

    • Jo, thank you so much … but her body had a very bad run the last 3 years and I have a feeling that she maybe has given up … but I hope that my feeling is wrong.

  1. This part, the letting go and knowing when to say good bye to loved ones, despite the reality of age and having lived a long full life…still, there is just no way to prepare. I hope the best for her Viv and take care of you too. xx wt

    • Wendy, I know exactly what you mean … we know the day will come, but we can never be prepared enough. Mom and I have talked about death and I know exactly what she wants – she don’t want to be kept alive with machines … and today I thought maybe I did wrong in sending her to hospital, maybe she wants to die … she said to me on Friday that the old engine has done enough. Maybe she is ready, but I’m not …
      Thanks for your support.

  2. Hi to your Mum and here’s to her coming home soon. At 91 it’s hard to persuade them to drink enough but eating food with enough water content can make all the difference.

  3. Dear Viveka, my thoughts and prayers are with your mom and you! Like Millan, I love Magnum Mini, Rollos and oranges (I don’t know about the porridge and don’t know the TV show) – do you think if I eat more (for her) it will make her better 😉 ???
    Chin up and big fat hug to both of you xoxo 🙂

  4. Hello to your Mamma. And hello to her wonderful daughter. I’m sorry this is going on right now. I don’t “like” the sadness of what is going on. But absolutely adore the part about your Mamma and what she loves. I nearly cried when I read “And I love my mum”.

    I hope for comfort for you both. And that this time together is perfectly precious for you both.

    • Jennay, thank you so much for your support – I have a feeling that this beautiful morning … will be it. Have been called for – and I’m on the train to the hospital now.

      • Bless your heart. So very sorry to hear this. I’m thinking and praying for you and your sweet Mum. I know this is a difficult time for you. Let me know if there is anything I can do.

      • Jennay, it’s over now … mom has come to rest and I’m okay with that – she gave up already on Friday – and I was lucky to be able with her the last hours of her life.
        To be here for me is more than enough. Thank so much for your concern.

      • I’m so glad you were able to spend time with her before her passing. I’m thinking of you and I’m always here for you, my friend.

    • Thank you so much, Jo … I slept well – but they have phoned for me … and I write this during the train ride to the hospital. Need my mind on something else, but I feel okay about it so far. It’s a warm beautiful morning.

    • On my way to mum now … have 40 min to the hospital, they have phoned and said that she sleeps very deep. Thank you so much for your thoughts. I’m very calm, but of course I’m worried that I will not be there in time.

  5. My heart goes out to you Viveka… my Mamma is 89 and I’m still not sure what I’m going to do without her one day… but every visit with her now I see the age catching up to a strong woman…
    To your Mamma get well and be healthy for Viveka’s sake…

    • Bob, I have always thought the same way every time I left her, I doubt very much that she will pull through this time – there was things she said during the weekend that .. have made me think that she don’t want to live anymore. I’m okay with that … because I been lucky to have a fantastic mother for so many years. Thanks for your support and for the comfort. At her bedside now.

  6. Ah, Viveka, all my best wishes for your mamma! I hope she recovers soon to enjoy many more oat porridges, Magnum Minis, oranges, Ashes to Ashes, Rollos and her wonderful daughter!!

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